Why ‘Ponderings’?
My brain is like a cooker/stove top. It has ‘stuff’ bubbling away on it all the time. Some is quietly blipping away in the background. Others front of mind and needing my attention.
I’m inspired by conversations, news items, articles, events and these blogs are the results of those musings!
What does a high-performing team actually feel like?
I was on a ship. Things were going seriously wrong and yet the team around me functioned. People communicated clearly, made decisions without waiting for permission, flagged problems the second they spotted them and trusted each other completely. We were a high-performing team, and every team I’ve worked with since, I’ve measured against it.
Your Personalised Resilience: Why stress deserves diagnosis
We hand out generic solutions such as mindfulness apps, breathing exercises, and "top 10 tips for managing stress" without ever diagnosing what's actually creating the stress in the first place.
Case Study: Are you stuck firefighting when you want to be leading?
I worked with a leader who was stuck in the fixing space. They were reactive and overwhelmed. Quite frankly, they were wondering what the hell they were doing wrong. They’re no longer there. They’ve got a clear roadmap and they know what needs to change.
Everything Deserves Diagnosis
Stop treating symptoms. Stop rolling out training programmes and wondering why nothing changes. Start with diagnosis.
Stop Shoulding All Over Your Team
Every time we say "I should be able to handle this without help" we're setting an impossible standard. And when we can't meet that standard ourselves, we expect our teams to meet it anyway.
Why I don't do fluffy or vague. I do data. (There’s science behind stress solutions)
I’ve said it before, but in case you’re new here, I need to be honest with you about something. I'm not one of those coaches who's going to deal in the pink and fluffy b*llocks.
France 2017 vs France 2025 - What I Learned About Sustainable Performance
The difference between escaping burnout and preventing it.
Stop taking “Hopium” - Your stress management strategy needs an intervention
Hopium is the dangerous combination of hope and optimism that convinces you everything will somehow work out fine without you actually taking any action.
Are you sleepwalking into the danger zone (Q4)?
September's here. There’s that usual back-to-school energy, and I bet you're telling yourself this will be the quarter you finally get your act together. But how are you really going to make that happen?
I was a toxic leader (and how I fixed it)
I was "The Rounds Bitch" - that's what they called me behind my back during my naval career. I was harsh, unforgiving, and made people cry regularly because I thought showing vulnerability was weakness and that real leadership meant having all the answers.
Drowning in procedures? What will save you when leadership gets real?
When procedures run out and you're facing nine simultaneous crises, all you have left is your behaviour - and that's exactly what separates effective leaders from the rest.
Why won't they just step up?
You've got this brilliant person in your team. They've been with you forever. They know your business inside out. They're absolutely fantastic at their job. So why can’t they just lead their team?
When your team says yes but really mean no
Your team smiles and nods in the meeting, they agree it makes perfect sense and commit to the change. Months later, you still see the old ways of working, familiar workarounds, and comfortable routines…. why is that?
Are you making it hard for you to be successful…??
Have you heard of self-leadership? It's really not talked about that much, but it's really important, particularly for those with success on their list of goals.
The control freak’s guide to letting go…
Your team probably doesn't need you nearly as much as you think they do. In fact, they might perform better without you hovering over them like an anxious parent at their kid's first playdate. So, how do you let go?
What shapes you as a leader?
I have been exploring how our early attachment styles might show up in how we lead. We know that race, culture, gender and many other characteristics shape who we are as leaders. But so does our childhood. Read this article to find out more…
“I wish I hadn’t waited until I was 50”
For a long time, I was a bit of an accidental asshole. And I wish I hadn't waited until I was 50 to sort my sh1t out. You don’t have to. Read this article to take the first steps to intentional leadership.
‘Tis the season that stretches relationships
While we're all decking the halls, workplace tensions can be rising faster than Santa up the chimney.
Call it Doris if you like
Doris doesn't judge. Doris doesn't take sides. Doris just wants to help you work things out.